There are many good parenting books on the market but one that I frequently return to in my practice - especially for parents of pre-teen and teen children – is “Parenting for Prevention.” It’s particularly useful for parents who themselves are Adult Children of Alcoholics and who want to make sure they don’t raise another generation of substance abusers.
It is too easy for ACA’s to slip into some enabling behaviors! But I think this book is a good read for parents of any nearly or clearly adolescent. Full of common sense and easy to read with almost no “filler” - I think you’ll enjoy the simple “job descriptions” for parents and kids and the advice on how to avoid those “mixed messages”. It’s cheap at Amazon or you can order it from a local bookstore.